Most of our days, if not every day, we are facing challenges. Sometimes, it is hard for us to find the motivation to keep us moving. I mean, it’s difficult to accomplish something if we lack motivation or have no motivation at all.
If you are a boss, you might be looking for a source of employee motivation to help your staff become more productive. If you are an employee, you might be seeking about work motivation to give you the strength to rise every single day, go with the heavy traffic, and deal with the dull, boring daily routine.
Unfortunately, we need to go over and over and over again with the cycle of our day-to-day life just to survive unless you’re already rich enough to retire and enjoy the fruits of your labor. Or, perhaps you’re already fine with your St. Peter’s Plan (a life plan). I’m just kidding.
Seriously, you need to take a B.I.T.E. of motivation to go forward in living your life and reaching your goals.
So, what does motivation really mean? John Adair, in his book Understanding Motivation, answered that a man or woman is motivated when he wants to do something. A motive is not quite the same as an incentive. While a person may be inspired or made enthusiastic by an incentive, his or her main motive for wanting to do something maybe fear of punishment. Motivation covers all the reasons which underlie how a person acts.
In short, motivation is our motive for action. It is the inner drive that we have when we want to do something and do everything to accomplish it.
A THEORY OF MOTIVATION
To give us more understanding, I’ll be sharing with you a theory of motivation called Herzberg’s Two Factor Theory by behavioral psychologist Fredrick Herzberg. The two factors are extrinsic needs (hygiene factors) and intrinsic needs (motivators).
The hygiene factors are said to give short-term satisfaction. These are referred to as short because once they are not maintained well, such as high salary, good interpersonal relationships, and a favorable working environment, then we become demotivated. On the other hand, intrinsic needs or motivators, which for me is more important, will give a long-term satisfaction, such as receiving recognition for an accomplishment, personal growth and development, and meaningfulness of the job.
Though the examples are mostly work-related, the principles can be used in your personal life. And the ones you’re about to read below are based on the idea of intrinsic motivations which I call “motivator enhancers.” You can learn more about Herzberg’s theory of motivation with a video and a chart at Mind Tools.
THE B.I.T.E.: Motivator Enhancers
You might be wondering what the B.I.T.E. means in the title of this article. Well, it is just a simple acronym for Believe, Inspire, Transform, and Empower: the slogan of this website that you can see on the banner.
Belief, I might say, is the foundation of strong motivation. How can you start in taking the first step in your career, or whatever plan you have, if you don’t believe that you can move or someone can enable you to take an action?
First, in spite of the pain and suffering that we are experiencing, I’m still a strong believer of an intelligent designer that most of us call God. I’ll explain further below why I believe so. Second, believing oneself is also a good motivating factor to keep us going. Before, I’d struggled so much in believing myself because I think I’m really weak. Thanks to the people that surround me, they had given me the reason to see that I can make something great.
- Believing God
On a study conducted by American psychologist, Steven Reiss of The Ohio State University, it is stated that “people are attracted to religion because it provides believers the opportunity to satisfy all their basic desires over and over again.”
The basic desires or “The 16 Strivings for God” according to the research are acceptance, curiosity, eating, family, honor, idealism, independence, order, physical activity, power, romance, saving, social contact, status, tranquility, and vengeance.
So, how can believing God motivate us? Well, believing in God instead of chance will help us to understand that life is meaningful because it is created with order and purpose, not in random. It is really hard to get out of bed if you think that life is meaningless because you assume you exist without a reason at all. Believing in the Great Providence will give us the confidence to pursue our dreams and aspirations.
- Believing Oneself
As stated earlier, I doubt myself before but I would like to advocate now that we really need to believe in ourselves if we want to create a change. After all, the Bible says, “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” So, it’s hard to love others if we don’t love ourselves because loving others is similar to loving ourselves, not loving them while depriving ourselves of what we deserve.
I’ve talked about believing God first before dealing with believing oneself because it is important to note that we should establish a belief in God first before believing in our capabilities.
The danger of believing ourselves first before God is that we’ve already become too focused on what we can do alone rather than on what we can do with the help of God. It is also significant to believe God first because it is only Him who can truly accept us beyond our imperfections.
How can believing in oneself help us? According to writer and motivational speaker Matt Mayberry, “To live a life of high achievement, you must fully believe in yourself and your ability.”
Sometimes, self-doubt and vulnerability are still haunting me, and it hinders me to pursue my goals. Perhaps you might also experience telling yourself, “You are nothing. You can’t do anything. You are damn weak.” Or, “No one believes you. Do you think you are good enough? You aren’t.”
That, my friend, will bring you down to your lowest self-esteem. According to Mayberry, “the biggest difference between successful people and unsuccessful people isn’t intelligence or opportunity or resources. It’s the belief that they can make their goals happen.”
We should believe that it is possible for us to improve; that we have the guts to get up over and over again after facing failures; and, that we have the ability to reach our expected success.
Inspiration is not the same with motivation in the sense that the latter is referring to the motive of our action while the former is the process of getting the motivation through an impulse or stimulus.
We can get inspired by the examples set by others like the leaders or personalities that become our role models.
For you to get inspired or spark action to others, you can think of why you are moved by your role models and the qualities that they have that inspire you.
You need to remember that even if you are inspired by others, you can be an inspiration, too. Well, anyone can be an inspiration in some sort, and of course, everyone can’t be motivated in the same manner that you have been inspired.
How can you inspire others?
- Learn to communicate effectively.
You can’t reach out to others and help them to take action if you can’t communicate well. The level of motivation that people can get from you will be based on the extent of your communication skills.
- Focus on your skills and abilities.
As uttered above, everyone is motivated in different ways so you don’t need to change every now and then just to please everyone. Focus on your abilities, such as painting, singing, writing, or any skills, to inspire others with the same interest.
- Be a positive influencer.
From being a weak and shy person, I’ve struggled to improve myself. I’ve strived to let go of all the negative influencers in my life, whether it’s an idea or a person. It’s essential that you are strong enough to make others indestructible, too.
- Learn to communicate effectively.
From believing to being inspired, you might already have a good reason to be motivated, and transformation might be the next thing to do.
Transformation, however, is not as easy as belief and inspiration. It’s a slow and gradual process and sometimes, dramatic. However, once you already have it, it can be your powerful drive to create an impact in the lives of others.
Being transformed is tantamount to being changed–a change of lifestyle, perception, plan, and a path to take. Sometimes, it could be a 180 to 360-degree change of direction.
How to transform yourself and others?
1. Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses
2. Create or list down your life goals
3. Focus on what you can do, not on what you can’t do
4. Challenge the status quo of “do more with less” effort; be better
5. Inspire passion and a sense of purpose to ignite creativity and innovation
6. Motivate others to achieve excellence
7. Cultivate a culture of believers, thinkers, visionaries, and game-changers
Nurturing and developing yourself will enable you to empower others. Being a changed or transformed person will resonate an environment of world-changing acts. Well, it doesn’t exactly need to be world-changing; it can just start from your family, circle of friends, work colleagues, or your small community.
Here are ways to empower yourself and others:
- Learn and share information: Be a source of knowledge, a motivator, an influencer, a fountain of wisdom who can be a trusted person when it comes to learning.
- Help people, don’t use them: Don’t take advantage of the people around you; instead, help them to feel important and valuable.
- Accept mistakes: This is the biggest struggle of individuals who tend to be perfectionists. Being so depressed with your mistakes will not bring you to the next level of your performance. Accept failures, learn from them, and move on.
- Look for ways to grow: Always be on the lookout for opportunities to develop yourself and others. Don’t stop learning. Continue to inspire and empower others.
I believe this B.I.T.E. of intrinsic motivations is powerful enough to give us the strength to move forward. Instead of nursing the pain in life, be a man and woman enough to stand the struggles in life.
When tough times come, think of the time when you are so motivated and then:
- Reminisce on what is going on that time.
- Remember of those people who are involved.
- Recall the feeling that the situation gave you.
- Recollect the reasons why it was so motivating for you.
- Rethink of what you have done next.
According to Anthony Jay Robbins, an American author and life coach:
“The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you.”
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